DISENGAGEMENT STRATEGIES 4
Thedirect disengagement strategies include direct expression of break upand directly starting another relationship. According to Bevan andSole (2014), the direct expression involves talking to the partnerand expressly stating the intention to end the relationship. Thismakes it clear to the partner that the relationship is over and thereason for the closure is well presented. The formation of anotherrelationship creates a direct impression that the former relationshipis over, especially in romantic relationships. On the other hand,indirect disengagement includes avoidance and manipulationstrategies. Avoidance is purposefully withdrawing from the partnerand keeping distance from him or her (Daly & Wiemann, 2013). Themanipulation strategy applies third parties and influencing thefeelings of the partner to dislike the relationship. This uses thecost escalation strategy that makes the relationship unappealing tothe other partner (Bevan & Sole, 2014).
Oneof the most memorable situations of parting with a partner was myfriend at work when I was working at a small company as an intern.This was my favorite colleague who had sacrificed her time to directme carry my duties. She helped me learn the clerical jobs at thecompany and gave me support that even supervisor could not give. As aresult, we had become friends and it was painful to part ways withher. Because I had decided to terminate my services at the companyearlier, so as to pursue further studies, I had to directly informher by organizing a lunch and broke the story.
Themost competent aspect of communicating the end of a relationship isby stating the reason for the disengagement. According to Kory(2009), this will help the other partner to come to a closure of therelationship. Therefore, the direct disengagement strategy ofexpressing the end is appropriate. Other strategies of manipulationand withdrawal or avoidance of the partner can also be applied, butthe reason for closure should be explained for an effectivedisengagement.
Bevan,J. L., & Sole, K. (2014). Makingconnections: Understanding interpersonal communication (2nd ed.).San Diego, CA: Bridgepoint Education, Inc.
Daly,J., & Wiemann, J.M. (2013). StrategicInterpersonal Communication.London: Routledge
Kory,F. (2009). InterpersonalCommunication: The Whole Story. NewYork: McGraw-Hill