Helicopterparenting is one of the many styles of parenting. It is characterizedby over protective parents who believe that their kids need them. Theterm coined by Dr. Haim Ginott refers to parents hovering over theirkids with the intention of saving them from themselves or from anydangers. Criticism has been leveled against this style of parentingas it prevents children from exploring the world on their own anddevelop a wide range of abilities and skills gained from experience.On the other hand, there are those who feel the style is appropriate.This paper explores the pros and cons of this style of parenting.
Forsome parents this style of parent works and has its benefits. Aucoindocuments the case of several parents who are involved in the livesof their children more than is necessary and the results are good. Hewrites that some helicopter parents who get involved in the lives oftheir children past the age of 18 assist their children in life suchas guiding them on choosing courses and schools. These actions arebeneficial to children and set them up for real life with a goodfoundation. Parents who are deeply involved in their children’slives are generally unhappy with the term ‘helicopter parents’ asthey feel the term is misleading and portrays them negatively.
Ungarargues that being overprotective is harmful to children. He writesthat parents are increasingly worrying over remote risks such asabductions and kidnapping while the real risks such as obesity andbullying are given little attention. Studies have shown that westernnations such as the US and Canada are better off in term of securitythan they were a few years ago which means that children in thesecountries are safer. He thus concludes that the worry that modernparents are showing by being over protective is unwarranted. Thiskind can protection has been termed as bubble wrapping as theintention is to prevent children from risks some real and othersimagined.
LenoreSkenazy, author and host of the TV series “World’sWorst Mom”,believes that bubble wrapping children prevents them from exploringlife. He says that for children to develop well, they have to learnhow to take risks and have fun while at it. Ungar also reports thatbubble rapping children prevents them from taking responsibilities intheir life. These children get so used to get things done for hemspecifically by their parents that they do not mature up and developinto responsible adults. He writes that one consequence of thisparenting approach is severe anxiety disorders. Again, these childrendo not learn the practice of taking risks in life and making bigdecisions. This is a risky practice because life is all about takingrisks. Parents who bubble-wrap their children deny them theopportunity to develop emotionally and psychologically to take risks.Therefore, while parents must protect their young one, they must notstifle their growth and experiences in life.
Asthe discussion has portrayed, overprotecting parents not only worryneedlessly but also stifle growth and development of their children.Whether it is hovering around children at whatever age bubblewrapping them with the intention of protecting them from a variety ofrisks, the practice does not suit children. For young children, theyhave little chances of escaping from this parenting style whileadults can escape from this style.
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