I have met many people in my life, but none has been as influentialas my father has. People meet for different reasons. There are peoplewe meet and they become a lesson in our lives, others turn out tobecome best friends, while others do not last for long in our lives.However, there are people we do not choose to meet, like parents, whoI think are the most important people in life. In my case, I can saymy father is the best person in my life. From a young age, I havebeen close to him. I have observed how hard he works to provide forhis family, how he protects our family and his honesty is obvious ineverything he does. In this essay, I will profile my father todemonstrate how he has taught me honesty, to work hard and how to becaring.
I cannot recall the number of times I have heard my father saying,“You have to be honest in everything you do”. I can confidentlysay that my father is the most honest person I know. His sincerity isevident in everything that he does. I can describe my father as thetype of person that will make promises he can fulfill, someone who isquick to punish once he detects I am telling a lie, and in his careerhe ensures that he is truthful. My father has taught me that beinghonest ensures that people believe in what one says. As a result,they give value to the words and interaction one is having. He hasalso informed that honesty results in respect. People like it whenothers are sincere in what they say and do, which makes it easy toget respect from others. On the contrary, people are more likely toignore someone that is constantly lying, as they cannot detect whenthey are saying the truth or not. For instance, at times, when aperson is so used to lying they may not get assistance in instanceswhen they are sincere about needing help. This is because people willdisregard their need for help as another lie.
I recall one incidence when my father cancelled my camping trip withfriends because I lied to him that I had completed my assignment. Iwas so focused on planning and packing for my camp. In addition, Iwas so excited that I could only wait for the moment because it wasthe first time I would be away from home, and alone with friends. Myfather had previously reminded me that I needed to ensure I hadcompleted all my assignments. He presumed that by the time I would begetting back from the camp I would be too tired to finish thehomework and still prepare for school the next day. I was sosurprised when he requested to go through my homework prior toleaving for the camp only to realize that I had not finished thework. The next thing I heard was a phone call to my father’s friendand my dad had just cancelled my camp. I was so angry that I criedthe whole day. Later, my father apologized for cancelling the camp,but he informed me that he did so because he always wanted me tospeak the truth. He said that I should not have lied about completingthe assignment because people learn to become dishonest when they getused to lying about small issues, which may seem irrelevant.Eventually, lying becomes a part of someone’s life. From that day,I have always learnt to be honest regardless of the circumstances.
My father works hard and provides all the needs for our family. Attimes, it is easy to notice the stress that he endures to ensure thatthe family has all the basic needs, which he does withoutcomplaining. By observing how he plans his work, how he fulfils hisresponsibilities and the effort he puts in all he does, I have learnthow to become hardworking. My father says that it is important forsomeone to work hard because it teaches one to become independent andsuccessful. According to him hard work always pays. Although it isnot fun and enjoyable to have to do something that is tiring, theoutcome always makes someone happy and content about theirachievements. For instance, when my father wanted to buy a house forthe family, he ensured that he worked more shifts. This meant that hehad minimal time to spend with me, but he would always call to checkon how I was doing. In addition, he always appeared fatigued.However, eventually he was able to save enough and buy a house. Thejoy he felt was obvious and he told me that because he had worked sohard, it was possible for us to own a house.
In the similar manner, I always ensure that I work hard in all thatI do. This is because observing what my father does has made merealize that working hard is rewarding. My father taught me from anearly age to work hard specifically in my studies. This meansensuring that I excel in all my grades and now in high school. Heconstantly reminds me that I should read more and do my best whenstudying. This is because in the end, I will be happy with myacademic achievements. In addition, he reminds me that by excellingin my studies, I will be in a better position to specialize on acourse relating to a profession of my choice, and eventually get towork in a career that I will enjoy. In the chapter “Entering theConversation”, Rose refers to one of the professors, JackMacFarland, and his influential role in changing his view ofeducation. “The teachers that fate and Jack MacFarland’s crisisintervention sent my way worked at making the humanities truly human”(Rose 48). I can as well conclude that my father has had the sameinfluence on me, inspiring me to work hard always.
Apart from honest and working hard, my father has also taught me howto be caring. He is a thoughtful person, which is evident in the wayhe treats not just family and friends, but even strangers. My fatherbelieves in giving and helping other people. I have severallywitnessed my father buy meals for people living in streets. Wheneverthere is a charity event, he does not hesitate to make hiscontributions. When at home, he is always helping my mother withhouse chores he assists me in completing my assignments and alwaysconfirms that I have everything I need. Anytime I ask for somethingfor my father, he will always try his best to ensure that heprovides, and when it is not possible, he explains to me why hecannot. For instance, if I ask my father to buy me new clothes, hewill always do so. However, at times when I ask him to take thefamily for a trip he is unable to, but always explains, because hemay be held up at work, or may not have the money at the moment.Growing up, my father has always planned surprise trips for thefamily, and prides in ensuring that everyone is happy.
I recall one instance when my father taught me how to be caring.When I was in sixth grade, my grandmother moved in with our familybecause she was unwell. My father was responsible for taking care ofher. He would always take her to hospital, ensured that she hadactivities to preoccupy her day so that she did not get bored andeven took her for walks on weekends. My father would always ensurethat I was close when he was providing care to my grandmother and hewould tell me that incase he was not around and grandmother neededsomething, I was to assist her. From then, I learnt how todemonstrate concern to the needs of others. In the chapter “Enteringthe Conversation”, Rose explains how Mr. MacFarland and Mr. Johnsonimproved his studies because they were caring. “Mr. Johnson washelping me develop an ability to read difficult texts – I waslearning how to reread critically, how to tease out definitions andbasic arguments” (Rose 51). The example relates to how my fatherhas taught me to become caring by observing his thoughtfulnesstowards the needs of other people.
Rose, Mike. Liveson the Boundary: A Moving Account of the Struggles and Achievementsof America`sEducational Underclass. NewYork, N.Y., U.S.A: Penguin Books, 2005. Print.